I'm a Dirty Dirty Feminist.

Today I wrote the proposal for my summer research paper, and thats not a big deal right? Well as I'm writing it my friend sends me a text about his new girlfriend, and how shes perfect because he woke up and she was cleaning in her underwear. My friend also believes that the gender pay gap is because women don't work as hard. My research topic was the effects of gender barriers on young women. Ironic right? For a long time i thought my friend had a narrow view of the world, but as it turned out i had a narrow view on the world. I didn't understand that his view was shared by many not just him. When you search feminism on YouTube the auto complete goes as followed; feminism; is bullshit, lol, ruined my generation. I just couldn't grasp that equal rights for women and men ruined a generation? How does that make sense?
So lets see why feminism has ruined a generation. 
Feminist hate men, right? No feminist do not hate men we do not want to enslave men or oppress them. Feminists just don't want to be oppressed anymore. As a feminist i can tell you that i have never once wanted to put someone down just because of their gender, but i have been put down because of my gender many times. 
Women are not oppressed. Okay so the biggest example of this is the wage gap, but let me get into that last. Oppression is defined as the state of being subject to unjust treatment or control. How many of you have heard or made the joke "get back to the kitchen"? That is a form of oppression, telling a woman she belongs in a kitchen to serve food. Catcalling is another example of the unjust treatment of women. When you sexualize a woman without her consent it is not a compliment and it is not okay. You are objectifying a woman based on her looks, as well as dehumanizing her. In some countries women are still sold to slavery and actually have their genitals mutilated. Yet people still insist women are not oppressed.Lastly the wage gap. Women make about 70 cents on the dollar compared to their male counterparts, if they're white. If you're a colored woman you're looking at even less.
Women don't work as hard as men.
Okay so where does this idea even come from? Maybe because women make less money? i have no idea where this comes from. Many people also like to argue that women cant focus on work like men can because of their children. Don't men have children too? Wouldn't it effect both parties?

I'm sure if you don't agree with feminism this wont change your mind, and I'm sure ill still be called a feminazi. Id like to close with that I'm a engineering student, a feminist and I don't hate men. 

A Letter To My Daughter

Dear Rylee, 

             As of right now I am a naive 19 year old college student. I do not know what the future has in store for me neither do i know what it has in store for you, I can only hope you have a fulfilled and beautiful life and you never have to experience any kind of suffering. I can only hope that you grow up to know me not as a woman who gave you up because it was so much more than that. I never gave you up, I gave you opportunities that i simply could not provide for you. I gave you a loving family that was not broken. I gave you a mother and father who had payed and begged for you. I did not simply give you up and I wanted you. I wanted to keep you so bad it hurt, I wanted to hold you with every fiber of my being I wanted to wake up every morning and see you. Do not ever for one second think i didnt love you. I have always loved you, before you were even born i loved the idea of you. The idea that a beautiful little girl was living in me. The circumstances of your adoption were particularly hard for me. You're father was not the person i thought he was and I was not equipped to handle you on my own. Your mother came into my life and helped me. She let me live with her when i was working 12 hour shifts to pay my bills and be able to eat, so i could have a relaxing time being pregnant with you. She stayed up with me when you were kicking late at night and keeping up. She even let me come to see you after i tried to take you back from her. Please don't ever take her for granted your mother will always have a special place in my heart.  Once you were born and your mother took you home i was so empty. There will always be an emptiness in me i think because of not being able to raise you but that is a sacrifice that i needed to make in order for you to have a higher standard of living than i could provide. Some night i stay up looking at your pictures thinking about how beautiful you are and how much i love you. Your mother has allowed me to stay in contact with you and her which is something i am so thankful for. I get to watch you grow up, I get the chance to see you run and play and i can see all of your happiness as you grow up. I want you to always remember no matter what that you are beautiful and special. By the time you find out that i am your mother your childhood will be gone you will be a young woman entering college and beginning your own life. For now though i will be your friend, and i will cherish every moment i get to spend with you. Right now your favorite movie is frozen which happens to be one of my favorites right now. Your mother send me videos of you dancing and singing along to it and it makes my day. You are an extremely happy child and im so glad that your mother and father have provided for you what i could not. You also have a full family of brothers to protect you which is something im sure you will be grateful for when you start dating :). I just want you to always know no matter what you were not abandoned by me, I will be there as long as I can and that I love you so much. 

The problem of omelas

So last semester i took a philosophy class and a certain story impacted me more than the other. It was called The Ones Who Walk Away From Omelas" the premise is that omelas is your version of utopia. Anyway you could imagine it but in order for everyone in Omelas to have utopia a single child must be taken and locked away barely fed and deprived of human contact, Everyone knows of this child and its suffering. The teacher then asked you have 3 options, 1. Leave omelas 2. Free the child 3.Stay in omelas and do nothing. almost all of my co students chose leave or free the child. This idea seemed so obsured to me, the problem i saw with freeing the child is who gives them the right to destroy everyone elses utopia for the happiness of one child? how is that the right thing to do? make lets say 50,000 people lived in omelas and make them all suffer for this one child, doesnt seem right to me. maybe its because its a child and people feel its innocent? i dont know. 2nd even more obsured is leaving omelas its almost hypocritical being that we are americans that would mean you should give up almost all of your niceties in our world because people suffer to make them. No one wants to do that now but oh in a hypothetical situation thats what you should do? Hypocritical at best. and lastly the only choice that would be acceptable to me is staying in omelas, 1 person suffering for the rest of the people? sounds fantastic to me considering its almost 400:1 odds that 400 people suffer for one person.
 Next would be the problem of which child is picked? i think that it should be chosen by IQ of the child. the children with the lower IQ may not even have the capability to understand what is happening to them.